Did you know that one of the biggest needs you have as a human is the need to feel important? Yep, it’s true. Did you also know that this need influences nearly every choice you make? Think about it for a moment. Your need to feel important influences nearly every choice you make!
Now, some may very well deny this. To deny this is to lose and be ordinary. To accept this is to win and be extraordinary. You see, this need is not bad. This need—and any need, for that matter—is not inherently bad; it is how we live out this need in the choices we make that matters.
With the human need to feel important, you must harness it and make it work for you; otherwise, it will harness you and control your choices without your awareness. Perhaps this need is already at work in your life without your awareness. Allow me to share the primary symptoms of this:
- Spending money on possessions you cannot afford so others will view you as important.
- Caring to the extreme what others think about you with what you say, what you do, what you wear, etc.
- Hijacking conversations and always steering them to a discussion about you and how important you are.
If you do these without knowing why you do these, you are not alone. I would argue that the majority of Americans display these symptoms in one form or another consistently throughout their lives without ever understanding why they do this. These individuals largely have lives that seem as though they are consistently spiraling out of control, and these individuals are often one financial emergency away from bankruptcy. See this post for more details on the financial strength—or weakness, rather—of most Americans: The Extraordinary Life and Money: Part One.
If, after reading these symptoms, you believe this describes you, then that is great news! This means you have observed a problem and you are honest enough with yourself to see it! If we can be honest with ourselves, then the sky really is the limit when it comes to what we are capable of doing and changing in our lives!
Perhaps this does not describe you. Maybe you have been there and have seen these symptoms of the need to feel important existing uncontrolled in your life and, as a result, have made the necessary changes to harness this need. My compliments to you as you are well on your way to discovering the limitless potential of harnessing the human need to feel important!
Or maybe you are among a third group of individuals that do not see this in their lives because they are not being honest with themselves. Ultimately, I cannot change anyone, and I especially cannot do so when the issue is honesty with oneself. Ultimately, only you can change yourself, and you have the power to do so; nobody else has that power, only you.
No matter where you’re at, what I have to share here is extremely valuable to all of us. The following steps will help you understand and harness the human need to feel important.
Step 1: Understand you have the human need to feel important. First of all, each of us must understand and acknowledge that we have this need as individuals. I have this need; you have this need; we all have this need! Until an individual understands this, it is not possible to control how we harness this need.
Step 2: Figure out how this need is presently expressed by you. How do you presently express this need to feel important? Do you spend a lot of money on possessions, clothing, and more in order to have a certain appearance that you think will make you seem important? Do you care to the extreme what others think about you? Do you hijack conversations to make those conversations all about you?
If you presently express the human need to feel important in any of these ways, then you are not living the extraordinary life. However, it does not have to be this way…
Step 3: Harness the human need to feel important. Once you understand the human need to feel important and figure out how this need is expressed in your life, it is time for you to harness this need and to take control of expressing this in ways that will benefit you.
The possibilities for expressing this in extraordinary ways are truly endless! Allow me to share a few:
- Use the talents you have to start a business that will benefit others and, as a result, meet this need to feel important in your life.
- Share what you know and teach others how to do something you are skilled with or know a lot about.
- Find purpose and meaning in the work you do and figure out how you are benefitting others.
- Meet the human need to feel important in the lives of others.
- Focus on finding ways to express this need that do not involve you spending money and instead involve you earning money and, ultimately, freedom.
The last point is especially crucial as this will help steer the way you express your need to feel important. Following this last guideline alone could radically change the way you express your need to feel important and completely and utterly change your life.
Think about it! You could be one step away from harnessing your human need to feel important and one step away from more fully living the extraordinary life!